deps: fix zlib compilation for CPUs without SIMD features

Fix the compile flags so that zlib can run on CPUs that do
not have SSSE3/SSE4.2/etc. Do not compile zlib with flags that
indicate that those features are available, and instead enable
them selectively for functions that use them.

There are probably better way to do this, e.g. through gyp file
modifications as suggested in the issue. However, this patch
should do just fine until that happens.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/32553

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32627


Reviewed-By: Gireesh Punathil <gpunathi@in.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Tobias Nießen <tniessen@tnie.de>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>