lib: consolidate arrayBufferView validation

There are lots of places that validate for arrayBufferView and we
have multiple functions that do the same thing. Instead, move the
validation into `internal/validators` so all files can use that
instead.

There are more functions throughout the code that do the same but
it takes some more work to fully consolidate all of those.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/26809


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>