deps: cherry-pick 0ef4a0c64b6 from c-ares upstream

Original commit message:

  gethostbyaddr: fail with `ECANCELLED` for `ares_cancel()`

  When `ares_cancel()` was invoked, `ares_gethostbyaddr()`
  queries would fail with `ENOTFOUND` instead of `ECANCELLED`.

  It seems appropriate to treat `ares_cancel()` like `ares_destroy()`,
  but I would appreciate review of the correctness of this change.

  Ref: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/14814

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/14814

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/15023


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>