src: fix error message in async_hooks constructor

There are two minor issues in the AsyncHook constructor, if the object
passed in has an after and/or destroy property that are not functions
the errors thrown will still be:
TypeError [ERR_ASYNC_CALLBACK]: before must be a function

This commit updates the code and adds a unit test.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22380
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19000


Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matheus Marchini <matheus@sthima.com>
Reviewed-By: Tiancheng "Timothy" Gu <timothygu99@gmail.com>