[mlir] use irdl as matcher description in transform (#89779)

Introduce a new Transform dialect extension that uses IRDL op
definitions as matcher descriptors. IRDL allows one to essentially
define additional op constraits to be verified and, unlike PDL, does not
assume rewriting will happen. Leverage IRDL verification capability to
filter out ops that match an IRDL definition without actually
registering the corresponding operation with the system.