tests: run concurrent map gdb test only on gcc

Update cmake_build_type handling and switch default to RelWithDebInfo

it should now produce warnings, when it shouldn't be run. This way
we make sure our CMake warns users properly.

This test doesn't work properly with Clang compiler (rbreak seems to not work),
Since it works well with gcc it's better to run it only on gcc and print a warning
otherwise, so user doesn't run it accidentally.

Fixes #968

add pool_invalid_argument exception

- make use of STRINGS keyword to display better hint for the CMake param (in cmake gui),
- warn if unusual build type chosen.

in the past some users run e.g. benchmarks and was surprised with
the results. Using release version should omit that problem.
Documentation is updated as well to point users with proper CMake parameter.

docker: fix packages deps

it's because of an automake bug in Fedora Rawhide docker image:
https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=1903527
I hope it's temporary change and it will be fixed on next release.

docker: update PMDK version to current master

it's required by pmreorder, which we install with PMDK.

to include fix for rpm packaging.

Update docker images

cmake: prioritize TBB_DIR to find TBB module

rolling is actually the latest release (which we have in separate image).
See for more info: https://hub.docker.com/_/ubuntu

to make sure we use the same source of docker images. Change to
OS-specific repos for opensuse and fedora, which is not updated
regularly on Docker Hub.

Extend contributing.md to encourage putting major changes to ChangeLog

docker: remove hub package from Fedora Rawhide

if TBB_DIR is set, disregard any way of finding TBB in the system.

[readme] fix wrong argument for make

Arguments starting from '-D' are typically CMake options.