src: sync access for report and openssl options

Audited usage of per-process OpenSSL and Report options, adding two
required mutexes.

Also documented existence and typical use of the per-process cli option
mutex.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32618


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Gireesh Punathil <gpunathi@in.ibm.com>