net: use close callback, not process.nextTick

Don't emit the 'close' event with process.nextTick.

Closing a handle is an operation that usually *but not always* completes
on the next tick of the event loop, hence using process.nextTick is not
reliable.

Use a proper handle close callback and emit the 'close' event from
inside the callback.

Update tests that depend on the intricacies of the old model.

Fixes #3459.