quic: use SocketAddressLRU to track known SocketAddress info

Using the `SocketAddressLRU` utility allows us to put an upper
bound on the amount of memory that will be used to track known
SocketAddress information (such as current number of connections,
validation status, reset and retry counts, etc. The LRU is bounded
by both max size and time, with any entry older than 10 seconds
dropped whenever another item is accessed or updated.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/34618


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>