assert: .throws accept objects

From now on it is possible to use a validation object in throws
instead of the other possibilites.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/23223
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/17584
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/17557


Reviewed-By: Benjamin Gruenbaum <benjamingr@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ron Korving <ron@ronkorving.nl>
Reviewed-By: Yuta Hiroto <hello@about-hiroppy.com>