cli: add --max-http-header-size flag

Allow the maximum size of HTTP headers to be overridden from
the command line.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25173


co-authored-by: Matteo Collina <hello@matteocollina.com>
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/24811
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/24692


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Myles Borins <myles.borins@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Michael Dawson <michael_dawson@ca.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Сковорода Никита Андреевич <chalkerx@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Jeremiah Senkpiel <fishrock123@rocketmail.com>