crypto: account for new 1.1.0 SSL APIs

This is cherry-picked from PR #8491 and tidied up. This change does
*not* account for the larger ticket key in OpenSSL 1.1.0. That will be
done in a follow-up commit as the 48-byte ticket key is part of Node's
public API.

rvagg: removed BORINGSSL defines before landing

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/16130
Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18622


Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Rod Vagg <rod@vagg.org>