src: schedule destroy hooks in BeforeExit early during bootstrap

Instead of doing it in the `internalBinding('async_wrap')`
initialization whose first call is uncertain depending on how
the native modules are loaded in JS land during bootstrap.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25020


Reviewed-By: Jeremiah Senkpiel <fishrock123@rocketmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>