net: track state of setNoDelay() and prevent unnecessary system calls

The state of .setNoDelay() is now tracked and code will prevent repeated
system calls to setsockopt() when the value has already been set to the
desired value for the socket.

Change and expand the appropriate test.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31543


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>