http2: refactor outgoing write mechanism

- Only finish outgoing `WriteWrap`s once data has actually been
  passed to the underlying socket.
  - This makes HTTP2 streams respect backpressure
- Use `DoTryWrite` as a shortcut for sending out as much of
  the data synchronously without blocking as possible
- Use `NGHTTP2_DATA_FLAG_NO_COPY` to avoid copying DATA frame
  contents into nghttp2’s buffers before sending them out.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18050
Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20456
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/17718


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>