tools: prefer common.expectsError in tests

Add lint rule to validate that common.expectsError(fn, err) is being
used instead of assert.throws(fn, common.expectsError(err));

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/17557


Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>