build: require --openssl-no-asm if old assembler

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20226
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/19944
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20217


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ali Ijaz Sheikh <ofrobots@google.com>
Reviewed-By: Myles Borins <myles.borins@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>