benchmark: add `test` and `all` options and improve errors

This adds a new `test` option. Using it automatically uses a single
minimal option matrix to verify the benchmark works as expected.

Using the new `all` option makes sure all test suites are run.

On top of that the benchmarks will from now on report properly
what category might have a typo, if any.

The http duration was also refactored to use a option instead of
relying on a configuration setting.

The fixture folder is ignored as test suite from now on.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31396
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/31083


Reviewed-By: Sam Roberts <vieuxtech@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>