http: make --insecure-http-parser configurable per-stream or per-server

From the issue:

> Some servers deviate from HTTP spec enougth that Node.js can't
> communicate with them, but "work" when `--insecure-http-parser`
> is enabled globally. It would be useful to be able to use this
> mode, as a client, only when connecting to known bad servers.

This is largely equivalent to https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31446
in terms of code changes.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/31440
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31446

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31448


Reviewed-By: Sam Roberts <vieuxtech@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>