errors: improve ERR_INVALID_OPT_VALUE error

* use util.inspect for value presentation
* allow to optionally specify error reason

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/34671


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Mary Marchini <oss@mmarchini.me>