build: define NOMINMAX on windows

Build with `-DNOMINMAX` to stop `<windows.h>` from defining macros that
conflict with `std::min()` and `std::max()`.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22731
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18216


Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22731