http: Raise hangup error on destroyed socket write

Prior to v0.10, Node ignored ECONNRESET errors in many situations.
There *are* valid cases in which ECONNRESET should be ignored as a
normal part of the TCP dance, but in many others, it's a very relevant
signal that must be heeded with care.

Exacerbating this problem, if the OutgoingMessage does not have a
req.connection._handle, it assumes that it is in the process of
connecting, and thus buffers writes up in an array.

The problem happens when you reuse a socket between two requests, and it
is destroyed abruptly in between them.  The writes will be buffered,
because the socket has no handle, but it's not ever going to GET a
handle, because it's not connecting, it's destroyed.

The proper fix is to treat ECONNRESET correctly.  However, this is a
behavior/semantics change, and cannot land in a stable branch.

Fix #4775