stream: make virtual methods errors consistent

Use the same error code and always emit the error instead of
throwing it.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18813


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: Michaë Zasso <targos@protonmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>