tls: make ossl 1.1.1 cipher list throw error

Make OpenSSL 1.1.1 error during cipher list setting if it would have
errored with OpenSSL 1.1.0.

Can be dropped after our OpenSSL fixes this upstream.

See: https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/7759

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25381


Reviewed-By: Daniel Bevenius <daniel.bevenius@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Shigeki Ohtsu <ohtsu@ohtsu.org>
Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25688