test: check destroy hooks are called before exit

Verify that the destroy callback for a TCP server is called before exit
if it is closed in another destroy callback.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/13262
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/13369


Reviewed-By: Trevor Norris <trev.norris@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Andreas Madsen <amwebdk@gmail.com>