build: default Windows build to Visual Studio 2019

Building and testing Node.js with Visual Studio 2019 is now working as
expected.
Fallback to VS 2017 if VS 2019 was not found.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/27214

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30022


Reviewed-By: Jiawen Geng <technicalcute@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Beth Griggs <Bethany.Griggs@uk.ibm.com>