lib: improve error handling

This improves the error handling for a couple cases where the
received value would not have been handled so far or where the name
is wrong etc.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19445


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>