worker: add `SharedArrayBuffer` sharing

Logic is added to the `MessagePort` mechanism that
attaches hidden objects to those instances when they are transferred
that track their lifetime and maintain a reference count, to make
sure that memory is freed at the appropriate times.

Thanks to Stephen Belanger for reviewing this change in its original PR.

Refs: https://github.com/ayojs/ayo/pull/106

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20876


Reviewed-By: Gireesh Punathil <gpunathi@in.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Benjamin Gruenbaum <benjamingr@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Shingo Inoue <leko.noor@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Tiancheng "Timothy" Gu <timothygu99@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: John-David Dalton <john.david.dalton@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>