lib,src: standardize `owner_symbol` for handles

Instead of somtimes using an `owner` string to link from a
native handle object to the corresponding JS object, standardize
on a single symbol that fulfills this role.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22002


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