n-api: add napi_fatal_error API

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19447
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/13971


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Jason Ginchereau <jasongin@microsoft.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Michael Dawson <michael_dawson@ca.ibm.com>