deps: upgrade to c-ares v1.16.1

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/35324
Refs: https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/releases/tag/cares-1_16_1


Reviewed-By: Jiawen Geng <technicalcute@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>