errors: create internal connResetException

Replace various instances of errors that use code ECONNRESET with a
single centralized factory function to create the errors.

(While making changes to _tls_wrap.js, this also takes the opportunity
to make trailing commas consistent on multi-line arrays. One had a
trailing comma and one didn't. This adds a traiiling comma to the one
that didn't.)

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/27953


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Trivikram Kamat <trivikr.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>