deps: cherry-pick 555c811 from upstream V8

Original commit message:

    [api] Switch from `SetBuildEmbedderGraphCallback` to `AddBuildEmbedderGraphCallback`

    `SetBuildEmbedderGraphCallback`, unlike `SetWrapperClassInfoProvider`,
    assumes a monolithic embedder that can provide all necessary information.
    That is not the case for e.g. Node.js, which can e.g. provide multiple Node.js
    instances per V8 Isolate, as well as native addons that may allocate resources
    on their own.

    Cq-Include-Trybots: luci.chromium.try:linux_chromium_rel_ng
    Change-Id: Ib53dfde82416dd69934b08623e27d674a483ac2d
    Reviewed-on: https://chromium-review.googlesource.com/1082441


    Commit-Queue: Ulan Degenbaev <ulan@chromium.org>
Reviewed-by: Ulan Degenbaev <ulan@chromium.org>
Reviewed-by: Yang Guo <yangguo@chromium.org>
    Cr-Commit-Position: refs/heads/master@{#53545}

Refs: https://github.com/v8/v8/commit/555c811c0d44d9aaaccf8e76059ed24537b3f012

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/21741


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Refael Ackermann <refack@gmail.com>