zlib: align with streams

- Ensure automatic destruction only happens after both
'end' and 'finish' has been emitted through autoDestroy.
- Ensure close() callback is always invoked.
- Ensure 'error' is only emitted once.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32220


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>