build: add --v8-lite-mode flag

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/33541


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Juan José Arboleda <soyjuanarbol@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
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