events: extract listener check as a function

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/24303


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: Denys Otrishko <shishugi@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Franziska Hinkelmann <franziska.hinkelmann@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>