assert: improve assert.throws

This switches the assert.throws output to the one used in strict mode
if a error object is used for comparison. From now on it will show
the complete difference between two objects instead of only showing
the first failing property.

It also fixes detecting properties with a undefined value and fails
in case the thrown error does not contain the value at all.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19463


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>