http2: implement maxSessionMemory

The maxSessionMemory is a cap for the amount of memory an
Http2Session is permitted to consume. If exceeded, new
`Http2Stream` sessions will be rejected with an
`ENHANCE_YOUR_CALM` error and existing `Http2Stream`
instances that are still receiving headers will be
terminated with an `ENHANCE_YOUR_CALM` error.

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18050
Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20456
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/17967


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>