dgram: reset bind state before emitting error

This was previously done inconsistently, sometimes before, sometimes
after emitting the event.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30210
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/30209


Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>