build, windows: use /bigobj for debug builds

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/16289
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/16288


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Refael Ackermann <refack@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Michaël Zasso <targos@protonmail.com>