build: add (not) cross-compiled configure flags

Adds --cross-compiling and --no-cross-compiling flags

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/10271
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/10287


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>