lib: use AbortError consistently

Signed-off-by: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/37715


Reviewed-By: Antoine du Hamel <duhamelantoine1995@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Trivikram Kamat <trivikr.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>