module: initialize module_wrap.callbackMap during pre-execution

Since the bootstrap does not actually use ESM at all, there
is no need to create this map so early. This patch moves
the initialization of the map to pre-execution,
so that the only binding loaded in loaders is native_module.
In addition, switch to SafeWeakMap.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/27323


Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>