src: introduce custom smart pointers for `BaseObject`s

Referring to `BaseObject` instances using standard C++ smart pointers
can interfere with BaseObject’s own cleanup mechanisms
(explicit delete, delete-on-GC and delete-on-cleanup).

Introducing custom smart pointers allows referring to `BaseObject`s
safely while keeping those mechanisms intact.

Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/quic/pull/141
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/quic/pull/149


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30374
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/quic/pull/165


Reviewed-By: David Carlier <devnexen@gmail.com>