lib: provide proper deprecation code

Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18513

Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19517
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18694
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18513


Reviewed-By: Ali Ijaz Sheikh <ofrobots@google.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Jeremiah Senkpiel <fishrock123@rocketmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>