src: refactor setting JS properties on WriteWrap

`async` and `bytes` are only interesting when the write
is coming from JS, and unnecessary otherwise.

Also, make all of the stream `Write*()` bindings use the same
code for setting these, and upgrade to the non-deprecated versions.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18963


Reviewed-By: Anatoli Papirovski <apapirovski@mac.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>