src: refactor stream callbacks and ownership

Instead of setting individual callbacks on streams and tracking
stream ownership through a boolean `consume_` flag, always have
one specific listener object in charge of a stream, and call
methods on that object rather than generic C-style callbacks.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18334


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anatoli Papirovski <apapirovski@mac.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>