module: move options checks from C++ to JS

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19822


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Guy Bedford <guybedford@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>