stream: emit 'error' asynchronously

errorOrDestroy emits 'error' synchronously due to
compat reasons. However, it should be possible to
use correct async behaviour for new code.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/29744


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Benjamin Gruenbaum <benjamingr@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>