worker: make transfer list behave like web MessagePort

Allow generic iterables as transfer list arguments, as well
as an options object with a `transfer` option, for web compatibility.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/29319
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/28033#discussion_r289964991


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>